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Sexuality: Sexuality Survey Findings

In a new study, lead researchers from Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion report intriguing new findings.  New data has been unveiled in what the researchers say is the largest, most comprehensive national survey of Americans’ sexual behavior since 1994’s “National Health and Social Life Survey”.  These findings come more than 60 years after the Kinsey report, “Sexual Behavior in the Human Male”.

Filling 130 pages of a special issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the study offers detailed findings on how often Americans have sex, with whom, and how they respond. In all, 5,865 people, ranging in age from 14 to 94, participated in the survey.  A number of researchers functioned as lead author for different facets of the survey.

The researchers said they were struck by the variety of ways in which the subjects engaged in sex — 41 different combinations of sexual acts were tallied.  These encompassed vaginal and anal intercourse, oral sex, and partnered masturbation.

Men are more likely to experience orgasm when vaginal intercourse is involved, while women are more likely to reach orgasm when they engage in variety of acts, including oral sex, said researcher Debra Herbenick, lead author of the section about women’s sex lives.

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Sexuality: What to Do … When You Feel No Desire

Sexual desire is a magical, enjoyable and — sometimes — elusive experience.  If lately you have found yourself feeling as though your passion for sex — or your partner — is dimming, here are some VERY IMPORTANT things for you to begin to do … at once!

First of all, get a thorough check up from your physician.  Make certain that you are not experiencing some other health problem that is masquerading as low sexual desire.  Discuss with your doctor any concerns you may have.

Once your physical doctor gives you a clean bill of health, turn your attention to the emotional you — examine your emotions.  Have you been having emotional reactions and keeping them stuffed inside?  Doing so can be blunting your sexual desire.  It’s time to

  1. get clear with yourself about what you are feeling;
  2. put thought into the best way to communicate your emotions; and
  3. come clean and be honest with your partner.

Also, remember to pay careful attention to the mental you — your thoughts.  Have you — subtly — been telling yourself negative messages where your sexuality is concerned?  Remember “self-fulfilling prophecy”?  Be aware:  If you have been feeding yourself negative ideas about your sexual satisfaction, these ideas can be manifesting in low sexual desire.  In order to move OUT of the experience of low sexual desire, it is vitally important that you CHANGE these ideas to affirmative, positive ideas that encourage you to enjoy strong sexual desire once again!

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Sexual Intimacy: Using Kegel Exercises to Strengthen PC Muscle for Sexual Intimacy!

Kegels Exercises are the rhythmic clenching and unclenching of the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles, also known as the “pelvic floor”.  The pelvic floor is an internal sling of muscles, which stretch from your pubic bone to your tailbone.  It also encircles the urinary opening, the anus, the perineum and the vaginal opening.  The PC muscles control much of the activity in the lower half of your body.

Kegel Exercises are named after gynecologist/obstetrician Arnold Kegel, M.D., who developed them as a treatment for urinary incontinence in women.  Once used for this purpose, they became popular for post-childbirth and enhanced sexual pleasure.

Having stronger pelvic-floor musculature means better sexual …