Author: Dr. Marlene Shiple

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Sexuality: The Power of Fantasy to Increase Sexual Desire

ScienceDaily — Scientists of the Department of Personality, Evaluation and Psychological Treatment of the University of Granada have released a new study.  Researcher Juan Carlos Sierra Freire studied how some psychological variables such as
* positive attitude towards sexuality
* sexual fantasies
* anxiety
are related to sexual desire in human beings.

The Study

Using the Sexual Desire Inventory, 608 subjects aged 13 to 43 were studied.  Researchers found that 32% of inhibited sexual desire in men was associated with a negative attitude toward sexuality, as well as some sexual fantasies. Eighteen percent of such inhibited sexual desire in women was due to increased anxiety and decreased sexual fantasizing. According to researchers, these figures show that psychological factors, which have a role in sexual response, depend on gender.

The Power of Imagination

The results of this research reveal
an important relation between sexual desire and positive attitude toward sexuality in men. Men responded more positively towards sexual stimuli and thoughts, and they accepted them more easily. The male population has an attitude that, together with sexual fantasies, heightens sexual drive.

In turn, women also share the imagination at play. The more sexual fantasies they have, the more sexual desire they experience. However, “women normally present more anxiety disorders than men” regarding transitory emotional stages such as anxiety, because anxiety strongly affects women’s sexual function.

This study highlights the importance of sexual fantasies in sexuality. In fact, sexual fantasies are used in sex therapy to diminish levels of anxiety of execution or of sexual activity, provided that there are no organic anomalies (lack of hormones, endocrine disorders, etc.).

The Importance of Education

These Spanish researchers point out that education on sexual stimulation and response as well as healthy attitudes towards sexuality is extremely important. In this way, sexual intercourse is more pleasurable and there is less probability of having sexual dysfunctions.

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Sexuality … Healthy & Vibrant Sexuality!

Healthy Sexual expression is a necessary part of being a fully-alive, fully-functioning human being.  Since each human person is a sexual being, every action that you perform is an expression of yourself as a sexual being.  When you recognize that sexuality is both normal and natural to life, it can become easier for you to explore the aspects of what comprises healthy sexuality.

For many people, looking honestly at sexual wants and needs is akin to doing something wrong and/or bad. For many, there are a lot of proscriptions and “shalt nots” where sex is concerned.  Focusing on improving your sexual health starts with positive ideas about what are normal and natural aspects of sexuality specific to you.

I hope this blog will provide you with ideas that allow you to be more comfortable with your sexuality and yourself as a sexual being.  I urge you add your “comment”s here — just click on the “comment” tag and type out your pertinent thoughts.  I invite you to add your ideas in ways that enhance the openness that is important to sexual expression.

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Self-Esteem: How to Enhance Your Self Esteem — NEW Video!

I invite you to use these techniques over and over to enjoy STRONGER Self Esteem in your life!

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Sexuality: Relationship Sexuality

Relationship Sexuality: Learn Practical Steps to Enhance the Intimacy and Sexuality in Your Relationship!  http://thesexcoachdr.com/coach

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Sexuality Communication: Listening is Important for Sexuality!

Communication includes 2 very specific elements:  1) a participant who is speaking; 2) a participant who is listening. Often, the participants change-off these functions.  The contribution of BOTH of these is essential to effective communication!

The following are 3 Tips to Help You Be a More-effective Listener:                                                                                 1) Maintain a Loving, Caring Demeanor — let your partner KNOW by your body language that you care to hear his/her ideas and, as a result, to know him/her better;

2) Ask Questions for Clarification — this allows you to hear your partner’s true thoughts and feelings about the matter being communicated.

3) HEAR What Your Partner Is Saying — rather than thinking about what you want to reply/rebutt, focus on each word that your partner is sharing.  This conveys that you care.

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Relationship: Relationship Sexuality

Tips to Enhance Your Relationship Sexuality & Intimacy:
  1. Talk with one another about your relationship
  2. Talk with one another about your intimacy
  3. Talk with one another about your sexual relationship
  4. Give frequent hugs
  5. Touch whenever passing one another

For additional ideas for enhancing the sexuality in your relationship, visit http://thesexcoachdr.com/coach

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Sexuality: Relationship Sexuality

Tips to Enhance Your Relationship Sexuality & Intimacy:
Have you been feeling dissatisfied with your relationship?  Do you wish that you and your partner could go back to your “early days” … when you had just met and were dating?  Would you like to build the passion and intimacy with your partner once again?
Well, stop dreaming and BEGIN to add romance BACK INTO your interactions with your partner!  (Be sure to see our Romance Selections at the end of this post!)
Here are 5 Tips to Enhance Relationship Romance & Sexuality:
1.  TAKE TIME TO THINK ABOUT HIM/HER:  What does s/he like?  What are the ways …
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Sexuality: What to Do … When You Feel No Desire

Sexual desire is a magical, enjoyable and — sometimes — elusive experience.  If lately you have found yourself feeling as though your passion for sex — or your partner — is dimming, here are some VERY IMPORTANT things for you to begin to do … at once!

First of all, get a thorough check up from your physician.  Make certain that you are not experiencing some other health problem that is masquerading as low sexual desire.  Discuss with your doctor any concerns you may have.

Once your physical doctor gives you a clean bill of health, turn your attention to the emotional you — examine your emotions.  Have you been having emotional reactions and keeping them stuffed inside?  Doing so can be blunting your sexual desire.  It’s time to

  1. get clear with yourself about what you are feeling;
  2. put thought into the best way to communicate your emotions; and
  3. come clean and be honest with your partner.

Also, remember to pay careful attention to the mental you — your thoughts.  Have you — subtly — been telling yourself negative messages where your sexuality is concerned?  Remember “self-fulfilling prophecy”?  Be aware:  If you have been feeding yourself negative ideas about your sexual satisfaction, these ideas can be manifesting in low sexual desire.  In order to move OUT of the experience of low sexual desire, it is vitally important that you CHANGE these ideas to affirmative, positive ideas that encourage you to enjoy strong sexual desire once again!

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Sexuality: The Importance of Sexuality

Sexuality is one of the most important areas of Relationship Power. The partners’ Sexual expression allows the Relationship to deepen.  Sexual interaction allows strong bonds to form between the participants.

As important as healthy Sexuality is to the success of a Relationship, it is — significantly enough — the area in many Relationships that is least talked about.  Many adults have difficulty discussing Sexual ideas — they stumble over communication of likes and dislikes, not to mention areas of possible Sexual dysfunction.

This difficulty in discussing Sexuality often stems from childhood-to-adolescent programming.  Many who have difficulty with Sex Talk were raised in a family where there was no talk about Sexual topics.  By default, this left the child-turned-adult with the belief that it was avoided in their family home specifically because it is NOT all right …

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Sexual Rights

The Declaration of Sexual Rights was adopted in the summer 1999 at the 14th World Congress of Sexology. This declaration stated the following about sexuality:

“Sexuality is an integral part of the personality of every human being. Its full development depends upon the satisfaction of basic human needs such as the desire for contact, intimacy, emotional expression, pleasure, tenderness and love. Since health is a fundamental human right, so must sexual health be a basic human right. In order to assure that human beings and societies develop healthy sexuality, the following sexual rights must be recognized, promoted, respected and defended by all societies through all means.”

With this as the basis of its presentation, the participants in the 14th World Congress of Sexuality determined eleven (11) basic Sexual Rights. These eleven fundamental Sexual Rights are listed below.  As you read them, I want you to ask yourself, “How can this Right HELP me to improve my sexual health and satisfaction?  Write down any ideas or questions that come to mind as you read:

1.  The right to sexual freedom. Sexual freedom encompasses …

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Sexual Intimacy: Using Kegel Exercises to Strengthen PC Muscle for Sexual Intimacy!

Kegels Exercises are the rhythmic clenching and unclenching of the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles, also known as the “pelvic floor”.  The pelvic floor is an internal sling of muscles, which stretch from your pubic bone to your tailbone.  It also encircles the urinary opening, the anus, the perineum and the vaginal opening.  The PC muscles control much of the activity in the lower half of your body.

Kegel Exercises are named after gynecologist/obstetrician Arnold Kegel, M.D., who developed them as a treatment for urinary incontinence in women.  Once used for this purpose, they became popular for post-childbirth and enhanced sexual pleasure.

Having stronger pelvic-floor musculature means better sexual …

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Sexuality

Sexuality is one of the most important areas of Relationship Power. The partners’ Sexual expression allows the Relationship to deepen.  Sexual interaction allows strong bonds to form between the participants.

As important as healthy Sexuality is to the success of a Relationship, it is — significantly enough — the area in many Relationships that is least talked about.  Many adults have difficulty discussing Sexual ideas — they stumble over communication of likes and dislikes, not to mention areas of possible Sexual dysfunction.

This difficulty in discussing Sexuality often stems from childhood-to-adolescent programming.  Many who have difficulty with Sex Talk were raised in a family where there was no talk about Sexual topics.  By default, this left the child-turned-adult with the belief that it was avoided in their family home specifically because it is NOT all right to talk about.  Hence, even as an adult, it remains a conversational topic that is forbidden.

This stance is counter-intuitive.  When a topic is so vitally essential to the health of the Relationship, it is likewise essential that it be open to free discussion.  Just as communication is important for couples in other areas, it is perhaps even-more important in the area of Sexuality.

It is my hope that, by openly discussing topics of Sexuality here, it will help “break through” the residual aura of inappropriateness left over from early-life programming.  Once that break-through has occurred, it is my further hope that this results in open Sexual conversation between partners — talk that is easy to accomplish … for the good of the Relationship!